LETTING GO OF UNFORGIVENESS

 

Forgiveness allows us to unhook the energy from the negative past

and free it up for a more positive future.

As the healing process establishes the rediscovery of our lost soul pieces and the assemblage of our authentic self, it also reduces the impact of forces imposed on us from others.  Whoever the perpetrator may have been becomes less significant, and whatever the betrayal becomes less troubling.  Forgiveness renews itself as a letting go of unforgiveness, essentially a letting go of anything that is disruptive to our authenticity.  Challenging events become redefined as opportunities inviting us to the rich experience of self-discovery, wholeness, and creative expression which is our personal calling. 

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Letting Go of Unforgiveness

By Theda Renee Floyd, PhD, RN, HHP

Forgiveness is said to be the ultimate step in healing.  Forgiveness uses the compassion of the heart to understand situations in terms of the forces that were acting on both ourselves and others.  We may still passionately disagree with the action or actions taken.  We may say, rightfully, that we would never have done such a thing.  We may even need something from the other person in order to allow forgiveness—an apology, an acknowledgement of harm, or restitution perhaps.  But in the end, forgiveness allows the heart to lighten and move on; it is the redemptive action of the heart.

The first step in forgiving others is to forgive ourselves.  This is not to say we should blindly condone every thoughtless action we have ever taken.  We need to look at ourselves compassionately, seeing the yearning of the soul and what it was trying to accomplish, seeing the obstacles that were in our way and the forces that impinged upon our journey at the time.  It means that we understand why we did what we did and separate our Higher Self from the self, the holographic fragment or soul piece that was in error.  Once we work through our feelings about a situation and reclaim pieces that were lost, forgiveness then lets us move forward. 

We follow the same steps in forgiving someone else as we do for ourselves.  We need to look at them compassionately and consider the yearning of their fragmented soul and what it was trying to accomplish.  We might ask, what were the forces acting on the person at the time?  What may have been their true intentions had they been more conscious?  What, if anything, do I need from them in order to allow forgiveness?  What do I need from myself in order to forgive them and move on?  Forgiveness allows us to unhook the energy from the negative past and free it up for a more positive future. 

Events that have occurred in the past have presence in one’s internal universe only so long as we revisit them.  It is as though we enter an art classroom to find the models from which we are to synthesize a multidimensional expression.  In this process, we journey far from the original occurrence to new dimensions and new levels of consciousness.  Each time we paint the picture or sculpt the form, we are actually creating a completely new event.  This is a transformation—a process that we can use in a positive way to learn and grow; or that we can use in a negative way to traumatize ourselves.  The choice belongs only to us.  It is the emotion that keeps us engaged.  It is the holographic fragment of ourselves that we seek to regain.  The emptiness that we feel is the result of the missing piece.  This is the trauma. 

As the healing process establishes the rediscovery of our lost soul pieces and the assemblage of our authentic self, it also reduces the impact of forces imposed on us from others.  Whoever the perpetrator may have been becomes less significant, and whatever the betrayal becomes less troubling.  Forgiveness renews itself as a letting go of unforgiveness, essentially a letting go of anything that is disruptive to our authenticity.  Challenging events become redefined as opportunities inviting us to the rich experience of self-discovery, wholeness, and creative expression which is our personal calling.